Pay attention, your life is your greatest teacher.

You need to validate people and have an open mind not to judge them, you do not know their story, their luggage and why they look like they do. It is important to lift each other, and bring little light into peoples life, every day in many different ways. You always have an option to your actions and what you can do to change the world, weather it is a small or a big task.

A little while ago, I looked at Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday on TV. It had me thinking. They spoke about your soul purpose and how important it is that you feel validated and valued by other human beings. They spoke about key questions that every person want answered in a conversation and how important it is that we make sure that people do validate you and that you validate people.

So what is validation?

Validation is getting feedback from others like “what I do and what I say matters to you. You hear me. You see me. You think of me. You thank me. You acknowledge my accomplishments. You appreciate my efforts.”

To validate someone is easy when you know what people are looking for. Identify these basic questions below which answers you if you get the validation that you are looking for. They also guide you when starting a conversation if you make somebody else feeling validated. Make sure that you feel validated and that you feel that you answer these quesions to build a great foundation for a great relationship:

• Did you hear me?
• Did you see me?
• Did what I said mean anything to you?
• Do you think of me?

Pay attention – validation is important

If you are not paying attention to the other human being, the person that you are talking to is not feeling validated, and the conversation leads to nothing, and relationships are broken because these simple questions aren’t answered. Be there, in presence, when you speak to someone. Pay attention. Bring little pieces of light into peoples lives and raise your own level of consciousness to connect to peoples ideas. They feel validated and you feel validated – you both grow!

Validation can be in forms of compliments given, and most often it is much harder to receive than give . Sometimes that requires practice. It is very important to be able to give yourself validation as well. Practice if you need to. When we love ourselves we can help others. You give and you receive.

I just want to end this post with these words, I think it was Oprah Winfrey who said these words:

If you align your personality with what your soul came to do,
and everybody has it,
align your personality with your purpose
and nobody can touch you,
and you wake up everyday fired up!

All the best,

Carina Asp
Marketing Coach